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Do you feel like you get up in the morning and before you know it, it's bedtime and you just feel like you've not really lived or enjoyed any aspect of your day? It's just been a day filled with tasks and jobs that need ticking off.
You book holidays, so that you have something to look forward to. You just get through all the rest of the months of the year just to get to that holiday.
This can be a job that you are unhappy in, it can be just your day to day routine or it can be a relationship you're in. It could be all three.
When we're young we live so much more in the moment, but once ordinary life kicks in; jobs, kids and marriages, a routine is set and before you know it, years have gone by and you are fully stuck on that treadmill of life. If you are happy on your treadmill, fabulous. But I speak to more and more people who tell me that they aren't happy but they're not sure why
Some people don't even know they are unhappy and some people know it, but refuse to face it.
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT
A lot of the time you don't even know you're on the treadmill. I mean, life is so busy these days, who has time to take time out, take a moment to take a step back and see your life from a different perspective.
But if you're feeling a little dead, emotionless, depressed even, then maybe it's time to jump off the treadmill and get some perspective.
WHAT CAN YOU DO?
BE ON YOUR OWN
A lot of people really don't like spending time on their own. I think this is because we are so busy in today's world that the thought of sitting there with nothing to do other than thinking our own thoughts, scares us and makes us feel guilty and selfish, thinking about ourselves. Putting us first for once.
I think it also scares us that we might think things we have been hiding from from a long time. It makes us face some things that we may find a little uncomfortable.
If you stay busy as a bee then you have no time to actually face the reasons why you are feeling unhappy. But spending good quality time on your own is paramount in you being able to think outside your situation. When you're in it, how can you think about it clearly? You need space and clarity to find out what's going on in your mind.
I UNDERSTAND, IT'S SCARY
Facing being unhappy in a job or relationship is scary. Facing it means that you are acknowledging it and the only way to get out of the unhappiness it's causing you is to find a new job or to leave an unhappy relationship. That's not an easy thing to acknowledge and face
YES! Facing these things is really scary. The fear of the unknown is really scary. Scary to the point that most people pop their toe in the water and then jump straight back to the safety net of a stable job or unhappy, but not that bad relationship. An it'll do mentality.
ARE YOU MAKING EXCUSES
You'll make excuses for yourself; it's not that bad, I can live with it, there are much worse places I could be, I should be grateful for what I've got so I should stop whingeing, I can't afford to get out of my current situation, what about everybody else - I don't want to upset anyone. The list goes on and on.....
BUT ARE YOU TRULY HAPPY?
At the end of the day it takes a very, very brave person to look at their current situation and make a change. It takes guts, it takes bravery, it takes balls the size of footballs!!
Not everyone has that in them. In fact I reckon most people in their 50's will stay put in an unhappy situation because they just don't have the guts to wake up, smell the coffee and realise that they are unhappy.
YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY
If you are reading this and it's resonating with you, then you need to make a decision about how important being happy is to you. Do you really want to be happy or do you want to carry on kicking your heels on the treadmill of life? But be honest with yourself. If you are just scared of the reality of change then you're really not being true to yourself.
In 10 years time how will you feel? Happy with your choices or stuck, feeling like the last 10 years have slipped away from you. Wasted years, a wasted life.
ARE YOU LIVING? ARE YOU ALIVE?
Ask yourself if you are truly living your life? Do you get up in the morning raring to go, excited to be living another day or do you dread the day, dread the routine.
LIFE CAN BE AMAZING IF YOU WANT IT TO BE
A throw away statement that we hear every day is you only live once. But really, take this sentence apart and REALLY think.
ARE YOU HAPPY
ARE YOU LIVING YOUR ULTIMATE LIFE
If you aren't then you may want to put your big knickers on, pull them up high and tight and start making CHANGES!
You really do only have one life, so go and grab it by it's balls and LIVE IT!
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